Treat yourself with kindness

Illustration of content woman in flowers
I have a lovely purple cardigan. It’s cashmere, and it’s the most beautiful garment I have ever owned. I bought it with some birthday money after a long series of disappointing cardigans that stretched, shrank, or went funny colours.

At first, I kept it for high days and holidays. But we all know these don’t come round often enough. In dreary, trying times, I found myself opening the drawer and stroking it wistfully, longing for those golden days of picnics or weddings, when you can forget about how the cat was sick on the new carpet, or that odd situation with the weird neighbour, or whatever troubles you.

And so I created a new sartorial category in my life. It’s called Everyday Best.

The Rules of Everyday Best:
Everyday Best is for those days when you need to treat yourself with kindness.
It can be triggered at any time by wearing a special garment that symbolises Everyday Best (in my case, the purple cardigan).
On this otherwise normal day, you must behave all day AS THOUGH you were on a high day or holiday.
Domestic chores are forbidden on a day of Everyday Best. You feel like a hot meal? Allow me to pass you the takeaway menu. Your children want feeding? Direct them to the biscuit tin, and look the other way.
NEVER unblock the drain on a day of Everyday Best. The sky will fall in.
A spot of light baking if you feel like it IS allowed on a day of Everyday Best, but only a recipe that will not fail or be frustrating. In fact, the healing power of Everyday Best is richly augmented by a gentle aroma of flapjack.
Everyday Best may be planned – indeed, some would argue the anticipation of it is worth everything. Friday is a great day for Everyday Best.
On the other hand, Everyday Best may be used like Rescue Remedy – use when needed the day after a dismal day, and the wearer immediately picks up.

Treat yourself with kindness. It’s so important! How do you do it?

 

 

 

9 Comments on “Treat yourself with kindness

  1. Trudi, you are SO talented!
    First painting, now prose! I think I see a book coming on. Keep all these delightful words of wisdom and put them into an illustrated book. A Happy Housewife’s Helping Hand to cope with Every day life , or something like that’s! Brilliant!

  2. Ive just tried to send a reply! I don’t know whether it reached you! Just to say I think , I know you are SO TALENTED, First with your painting,which is truly unique, and secondly with your prose, which is totally stunning, and wise, and exceptionally pleasing to read. When I come in and see something has landed from you,mi know I’m going to be cheered up! Well done and keep it up! I suggest you keep all this creative stuff together and publish a little illustrated book! A little book of wisdom and pictures! I sure it would sell, I’d buy one! Love from Roger

    Sent from my iPad

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    • Yes, a book would be amazing. It is on my radar. I’m building up enough material and then I shall submit to publishers. And thank you! I repeat, though, hard work is better than talent! xx (PS: Did you know I used to work as a writer? I’ve always wanted to bring my writing and painting together.)

    • Yay! Do it! It really works. I’ve had to do it several times recently in emergency measures. The news is deeply unsettling me. Xx

  3. Oh how lovely, Trudi. We have Self Expression Day and that too is enormous fun and very liberating . Like if you go to a restaurant you could order caviar and lobster if you wanted, or you could stay in bed all day and read a book. I will incorporate your idea into our family tradition immediately!

    • Oooh! Self Expression Day sounds fun! I might try that one, although it also sounds dangerous with my excessively expressive family. They could get us into a few scrapes, I think! 🙂

  4. Love it 🙂 I like how purposeful this self-kindness is. Good perspective!

    Sarah 🙂

    On Mon, Jan 30, 2017 at 5:56 AM, Trudi Murray Art and Illustration wrote:

    > trudi posted: ” I have a lovely purple cardigan. It’s cashmere, and it’s > the most beautiful garment I have ever owned. I bought it with some > birthday money after a long series of disappointing cardigans that > stretched, shrank, or went funny colours. At first, I kept it” >

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